Friends, Fans, and Responsibility
This has been batted around before, but I don’t really get the purpose of Plurk fans. In fact, the entire concept of fans has always seemed more that a little pompous to me. I neither need nor want fans; I’m a four-inch-tall amphibian, not a rock star. What I would vastly prefer is that anyone who is currently my fan click on the friendship button. I promise to add you back. I don’t want you to follow me; I want to sit down at the table of Plurk as your equal.
Oh, on the issue of friends, I still have a friendship request blowing in the wind on my alerts page. I made it, at the request of another friend, about ten days ago. The new Plurker in question has been a friend of mine for a very long time on StumbleUpon. I am sure he was brought on by his sponsor in all good faith, and then decided that Plurk was not for him, and just never managed to close out the circle.
So, if you bring someone to Plurk, and hype them to your friends, please make sure that they understand the dynamics of what you are doing. Because they like you, some of your friends will send a friend request. If your new mentee never does the right thing and accepts, two things happen. Withdrawing the friendship request seems like a sleazy thing to do and we are loath to do it. Something in this unclosed loop also costs somebody Karma.
So if you bring somebody in and introduce them, explain the rules first. They are not complicated. Accept the friendships being requested. Even if you just decide to campaign for friends for somebody you like from Plurk, make sure they know what’s going on. Leaving people twisting in the wind because they trusted you is not at all cool.
I’m KDFrawg on Plurk. If you’re my fan, stop it! Be my friend instead.




July 11th, 2008 at 2:02 pm
Agree 100%!!!
July 11th, 2008 at 2:18 pm
Yes Kdfrawg you nailed it AGAIN!
July 11th, 2008 at 2:38 pm
you did nail it for the most part except your very last line, I agree that “if you are my fan, be my friend instead” however I have some fans that English is their second language and they only fan me so that I do not see the other language that I cannot understand pop up on my timeline. I feel in this case it is an exception to being a fan vs. a friend and I appreciate the common sense that these people have. It makes me happy to be part of the Plurk way of life.
July 11th, 2008 at 2:49 pm
Well said!!
July 11th, 2008 at 3:15 pm
Agree whole-heartily with you on this @KDFrawg.
Might seam odd me saying this as someone who has a ‘few’ fans on his profile… let me explain. At the time when I started my journey through Plurkland, I added in quite a few people as fans as I was unsure of them and wanted to sort of, ‘come back later’.
Now though, I can’t seam to remove them other then to add them as friends (…then perhaps to remove them). This I feel already so awkward to do just ‘thinking’ about it!
However, that aside though on thing remains…
Thanks again to you @KDFrawg, for sharing a great post!
Alex | Zen
July 11th, 2008 at 4:20 pm
I think its a very good post and being your invitee I hope I am living up to the task, lol. I have my setting so that I cant be fanned, who needs a lurker. Your either plurking or lurking and the latter makes me uncomforatbe. V
July 11th, 2008 at 5:34 pm
I agree that the process of making friends on plurk can be a little awkward sometimes, but the more I plurk the more I realize it’s a whole lot more fun if you only follow people who you really like. I went through and cleared out people who just plurked for karma, or diggs, or whatever other way of using me, and the experience became much more pleasurable.
So, when someone sends me a friend request, I check out their time line. How many digg requests in the last hour? Do they actually say anything interesting? If no, then I leave them alone. Chances are they don’t care about being my friend anyway.